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A Dominant Seattle male for submissive woman woman you don't enjoy spending time with outside the bedroom isn't someone you can realistically spend the rest of your life with; a vanilla girl who really likes you may get there—she may discover that she gets off on being in charge—if you're patient and attentive to her sexual interests.
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